Understand, tune into and befriend your nervous system so you can live, work and parent with more ease
30-day online programme that gives you the education, resources and support you need to create real lasting change in your life, for your family, and for your children.
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Are you a parent or caregiver who wants to be able to show up for yourself, your children, and the people you care about in the best possible way?
If you answered yes to one or more of these, you're in the RIGHT place.
I don't want anyone to struggle alone like I did... trying to work out what to do on my own, hoping for the best, trying anything and everything, only for nothing to work in the short or long term. And I don't want any parents or children to go through the heartbreak, pain and suffering that my children and I did either... especially when they don't have to.
So I've done all the hard work for you to make your journey easier.
Hi, I'm Sian. I'm a therapeutic coach, educator and early and relational trauma specialist... but more importantly I'm a single mama of three young people, I grew up around abuse, have experienced 3 abusive relationships, and have been parenting traumatised children alone for the past 9 years.
For most of my life I felt like I'd failed as a human being and like I was failing as a mum too.
I was struggling to manage my own stuff, let alone be there for my children in the way they needed. Everything was a struggle. I didn't have any support, felt isolated, lost and ashamed, and nothing I tried worked. I tried to put on a brave face and "get on with things"... which kind of worked until things suddenly got a lot worse!
So I went in search of the answers my children and I desperately needed, and discovered the key to real lasting change, breaking free from past conditioning, and healing trauma.
That's when EVERYTHING changed, both for me and for my children... and since then this new kind of "work" and my unique approach to it, has changed everything for the hundreds of parents I've worked with since.
And it can change everything for YOU and your children too.
That starts right here... by understanding what's REALLY going on.
It's the disconnection and lack of safety we feel within our bodies, that is driving all the problems and challenges we're desperately trying to fix.... often without us realising.
Although human beings are great at being able to adapt to survive this, doing so causes us lots of problems over time.
This keeps us stuck in survival mode, affecting everything in our bodies and lives, often without us knowing... our thoughts, feelings and actions/reactions, our relationships, parenting, and mental, emotional and physical health, and our ability to live fulfilling, rewarding and meaningful lives.
And this also recreates the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that keep us from safely being in our bodies, feeling safer within them, and feeling more connected too… that keep us from creating new and empowering experiences that are useful and helpful for us… that keep us from being the parents we want to be and our children need us to be… and keep us feeling stuck, stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, and disempowered.
Not only does time not heal this, cognitive approaches, positive thinking, and many therapies don't work either, despite your best intentions, and those of the people and professionals around you.
And over time, the effects of this only get worse, bringing even more pain and suffering into our lives.
Until we learn how to embody safety - that is develop a felt sense of safety deep within our bodies - and learn how to attune to ourselves, our needs, and our unique nervous systems and physiology, we will struggle to be fully present in our lives, for our children, and for the people we care about the most... we will struggle to navigate the challenges we face... and we will struggle to create lasting change and heal trauma.
Which is why the work needs to start with us as parents.
Deep down, we know this. We know that many of the things we most want to change keep us stuck in the same old stories. And the reason we stay stuck and struggling is because no-one teaches us what’s REALLY going on, let alone what to do to create real lasting change... until now.
Your nervous system is the foundation for EVERYTHING.
It drives everything you do and don't do, including how safe and connected we feel... or don't.
But what most of us are doing, and have been taught to do, is to do all the things without working with the nervous FIRST.
Which is why all the hard work you’re doing doesn’t create lasting change and things keep coming back up… even if you’ve tried anything and everything or have been doing everything you've been "told" to do!
Because they're just skimming over the surface and don't go deep enough.
Understanding, tuning into and befriending your nervous system holds the key to real lasting change.
Everything you think, feel and do, your stories about the world, your experiences and yourself, and the way you look at, relate to and experience everything, comes from within your body and emerges from your nervous system.
So to create real lasting lasting change (and heal trauma), we need to learn how to work with our nervous system.
It's also how we understand, care for and trust ourselves too.
And it's even more important for parents so our children can feel safer with us and in their own bodies.
"This is amazing! It's the what and the why, but most importantly the how so you can put the learning into practise, taught by someone who really gets it! It's what I've been looking for for years without realising!!"
Embodying Safety is a 30 day guided journey with simple to follow lessons and exercises that will change everything for you.
You will learn a proven framework grounded in Polyvagal theory and the latest neuroscience, backed by hundreds of case studies.
The easy to digest lessons and exercises are only around 15 minutes long so are easy to fit into your busy life, and as it's a self-study course you can work though everything at your own pace.
You'll learn how the body works and why (and how trauma messes that up), and how to tune into your body and nervous system so you can build safety, capacity and regulation within it and create real lasting change in your life, in your family, and for your children.
You'll also discover a whole new world of freedom and possibilities, and will notice changes in almost every area of your life!
When you learn how your body works and why, it changes the way you look at and respond to everything, and opens a door to lasting change.
Learn how to tune into, befriend and rewire your nervous system so you can find calm in any chaos and become more regulated.
Be guided, empowered and supported every step of the way, at the pace that's right for you. You won't be alone, we'll be right by your side!
Every day for 30 days, you'll get an email that will contain one of the following:
You can access everything on any device, so it's easy to learn and practise at the best time, and in the best place for you... and you'll also get LIFETIME access to everything too (including any updates to the course)
Private facebook group where you'll be guided, empowered and supported every step of the way by me and my team, as well as everyone else walking this journey alongside you. It's a safe space where you can ask any questions you have, get the support you need, and share what you're learning and noticing, as well as celebrating your wins, big or small.
Weekly Live Q&A's inside our private facebook group where you can connect with me and others walking this path, and get any of your questions answered by me live very week.
Additional lessons after the programme ends - 3 bonus lessons to help you continue practising what you've been learning and integrate the practises and lessons into daily life. These also include practical solutions that will help you navigate any challenges with more ease too.
Going Beyond The Behaviour Quick Start Guide - Learn how to understand and calmly and confidently navigate children's behaviour, emotions and needs, however challenging. You can work through and start implementing everything in less than 2 hours. You'll learn the basics of stress, shame and trauma driven behaviour, and the key practical solutions you need, so you can start using them quickly and easily. These 5 simple steps really work and make a real difference with children of any age... and there's also an extra step for when things go wrong or you make mistakes (which will happen we're all human!)
A healthy and well regulated nervous system is the key to truly thriving. We learn this through getting safe enough experiences of co-regulation and then taking those learnings out into the outside world to practise.
Relationships bring learning, growth and healing, but they can also be the source of hurt, pain and suffering. We need safe, trusting relationships to learn, grow and heal, and to be able to feel secure in and trust in ourselves.
Being able to navigate and overcome challenges with more ease, however difficult, then recover from them easily, is now more important than ever before. Safety and regulation are key for developing resilience.
"WOW! The nervous system really is the key... this has made such a difference! Everything made so much sense and has helped more than years of therapy has!"
"This is SO GOOD and is such an amazing programme! I'd encourage anyone to sign up, this is life-changing!!"
""This has changed my life! Knowing what's been holding me back helped me let go of all the shame I've carrying... and everything is changing now!""
We are living in unprecedented times, and our lives have changed quickly, in ways we would never have imagined possible at the start of this year.
Not has the global pandemic brought real (and many invisible threats) to the way we live, work and connect, it's also brought us many unique challenges.
We are all (adults and children) living through traumatic times, both individually and collectively, and that is also bringing past unresolved traumas bubbling up to the surface too.
But we can protect ourselves and our children from the affect of these uncertain times, and reduce the impact they have on our lives and in the futures.
This work is now more important than ever before... both individually and collectively.
The education, resources and support In Embodying Safety are needed more now than ever before, so we can show up for, be with, and support ourselves, our children, and each other.
The capacity we have to embody safety and connection, and regulate our unique nervous systems, is the foundation for everything... including guiding, supporting and offering co-regulation to our children and others.
How we look at, relate to, and respond to everything matters more now than it EVER has before.
If we do nothing, and don't awaken to reality of where we are and the paradigm shift that's desperately needed, then sadly things are only going to get a lot worse... and the impact of these times will last for generations.
But we are also at another unique point in time, where for the first ever in history, we have the science, research and practices we need to create real lasting change in our lives, for our children, and for generations to come.
Embodying Safety is for:
Your journey starts within a few minutes of you signing up, when you'll receive your first lesson. You can then start it whenever you are ready.
You'll then get an email every day for 30 days with a lesson, exercise, or prompt to rest or repeat exercises, and you can work through everything at your own pace. You've got lifetime access so you can work through the lessons at the speed that feels right for you... and that's something I encourage too. So just because the course is 30 days long, it doesn't mean you need to complete it within that time.
Embodying Safety walks you through all of the most important education, concepts and ideas you need to know to build solid foundations for feeling safer within your body, building capacity and regulation within your nervous system, and healing trauma. You also get simple exercises and practises that help you apply that learning and bring it to life so things change.
However Embodying Safety is just the foundation, I can't teach you everything you need to know in 30 days, and it takes longer than that to rewire your nervous system, create real lasting change and heal trauma. That being said, you have lifetime access to the course, all the content within it, and the facebook group, and you will notice changes in every area of your life from everything you will learn and practise in this course.
We also have a membership community for mamas where you can continue your learning, go deeper and further with it, and get in depth practical and emotional support and coaching with parenting and behaviour, nervous system health and healing, and all aspects of living your life. You will be invited to join our ground breaking community after your 30 day journey ends, and if joining feels right for you we would love to welcome you (there is no obligation or expectation whatsoever to do so).
One of the beautiful things about Embodying Safety is that I created it in a way that makes it easy for anyone who doesn't have much time. As a single working parent myself, I know that free time can be a rare thing. So I've designed everything to make it as easy as possible for you.
Although the course is guided, it's self-study, so you can work through it at any pace that feels right for you... and that's something I actively encourage as it's an essential part of your journey.
The content is available on any device, in video and audio formats to suit any learning styles. You have lifetime content to all the content and group, and you'll be encouraged to consume and digest it at the pace that feels right for you.
Every day for 30 days, you'll get an email that will contain one of the following:
You also get these bonuses:
You can access everything on any device, so it's easy to learn and practise at the best time, and in the best place for you... and you get LIFETIME access to everything too (including any updates to the lessons, exercises or course)
Yes, absolutely! Embodying Safety is open to anyone in any country, continent or timezone.
No, Embodying Safety is not therapy. It is an educational programme. Although it is not a substitute for therapy, many people find it more beneficial than therapy, or find it brings a deeper level of healing to any therapy they are having, or have in the future.
Many people find that they don't need therapy after doing this work. That being said, we do not offer crisis support. This programme is for people who are ready to rewire their nervous system and break free from the effects of past trauma, and are willing and able to do the work to make that happen.
Everything you will learn and practise is about self-healing, is grounded in the latest neuroscience, and is backed by hundreds of case studies. If you are ready and willing to learn and do the work, little by little, this course has the power to change your life and your children's.